A View From the Other Side: #MenstruationMatters

I know there will inevitably be some up-in-arms that a cisgendered, heterosexual, male dominant freak would presume to speak on a matter so intimate and personal to women. As a man that has spent a lifetime in long-term intimate relationships with women, let me assure you that I have valid observations on the subject that…

On The Many Ways I Love Women

I wish I could say I love people, but that is simply not true. While there are a slight handful of men that I have life-long bonds of friendship and kinship with, the only man I have ever truly loved is myself. On the other hand there are a vast number of women that I…

On Self Pleasure and Self Denial (#MasturbationMonday)

  So as many of you may already be aware, I am a pretty sex-positive guy, though I’ve only been open and vocal about it for a handful of months now. My partners of course have known the vast majority of my deepest, darkest secrets, for the most part, however, of the twenty-something years I’ve…

Orgasm Denial: Playing with Fire

So one thing I’ve noticed about new and inexperienced doms is the propensity to dive into orgasm-control play. Maybe it makes them feel like a big man to have absolute authority over how and when their sub is allowed to have an orgasm. Sometimes I wonder though just how many men truly understand the functioning…

Finding ‘The One’ By The Numbers

One of the most interesting things I have learned since taking on a vocal and active role in the online BDSM community is just how many people on either side of the d/s slash or of whatever gender expression really just want exactly what I have. A long-term, committed, romantic relationship with the freak of…

Hucows: WTF…

So I am already on the record as being very body image positive and very much currently engaged in an Adult Nursing Relationship with my wife. So you’d think that I’d probably be down with a kink that rolls those two things into one. The truth is very much different than fantasy however when it comes to Hucow play……

BDSM Mistakes: We all make them…

So if you read my work of late you’ll notice that I think very highly of my ethical philosophy and my skills in the dark arts of kink. The blunt reality however, just like every other human being on the planet I am not perfect. I have made mistakes, and I’m not talking about the…

Io Saturnalia! Holiday Fun for Kinksters

So it shouldn’t come as a shock to my readers that I adhere to the religion of the ancient Romans. It seems however that in the rush towards holiday inclusiveness these days, the festivals I hold dear get lost in the shuffle. It certainly doesn’t help that the early Catholic church intentionally set the dates…

Top Drop: What Goes Up Must Come Down…

So you wanna be a bad-ass, in-control, invincible alpha dom, you’d better be tough, and I’m not just talking about physical strength. Being a good dom requires emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and psychological fortitude in abundance. However even the most stalwart and steadfast of us can sometimes be reduced to a blubbering mess of negative emotions…

Primal Domination: A Primer

So I’ve always been a bit of a chameleon, blending in seamlessly into a wide range of cultures and social circles with ease. This ability has extended into my freak life as well, I run the gamut between gentle and sensual lover to harsh sadist, whatever my partner desires most in a dom is whatever…

Thoughts on Thots…

So if you happen to be following various hella-freakay-peeps on social media like I do you will likely have caught wind of the latest kerfuffle blowing up the twitterverse; the so called #Thotaudit…Hordes of unwashed and unlaid incel trolls have taken to reporting their favourite cam-girls to the I.R.S. for potential tax-evasion… But maybe you…

Rant Time: BDSM Newbs

I’ve generally been going off on quite a lot of rants lately. It’s almost as if I just woke up one day and realized I’m an elitist jerk, perhaps even an old codger. It seems pretty lame of me to take to a community of tolerance for deviance and try to drone on about things…